God tells us clearly in the Bible what He expects a woman’s attitude to be toward her husband. Ephesians 5:22-24 says, “Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands.”
Submission may be somewhat easy if you know that the one in authority over you is a lot smarter than you. It’s more difficult though, if you have to submit to someone whom you think is not that wise or is not as smart as you are. In the case of marriage, wives must submit to their husbands whether their husband is right or not (as long as they are not asking their wives to sin). This unconditional submission is hard, but it is commanded by God.
Wives have to make a choice, not just about whether or not they will submit to their husbands, but a choice about whether or not they will trust God. It’s a hard thing to do, but when you think about it, isn’t it pretty silly that we humans find it hard to trust our Creator – God? Obedience of the Scriptures comes out of submission to God, which comes from trusting that He is the perfect authority. When a wife submits to her husband because of God’s command, she is ultimately submitting to God. If she chooses to trust God, then she knows that God is in authority over her husband.
Ephesians 5:21 says, “Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God.” The word fear is replaced with ‘reverence’ and even ‘love’ in other translations. The issue of wives submitting to their husbands is about the choice to fear, revere, and love God. Romans 12:1 says, “I beseech you therefore, brethren, by the mercies of God, that you present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable to God, which is your reasonable service.” Fearing, revering, and loving God are things that we should do, not only because they are right, but because it is our reasonable service, in view of God’s mercy.
God’s design for marriage is that the husband is the head of the wife, just as God is the head of the church. His design in both cases is perfect, and we should not question His commands, no matter how hard they seem to be. He knows that we are only human, and He will help us to obey Him. All that He wants is a willing heart, surrendered to Him.
The choice needs to be made – will wives of this generation trust God, and submit to their husbands in everything? Will they value Jesus’s sacrifice enough to obey His commands? Will they have faith in God that He is sovereign over their husbands? You decide.